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Amy Kinnings- Smith

International Women's day




On this day, I was thinking of all the women around the world who feel like they are going crazy or are being told they are crazy by doctors. I run this blog and social media accounts, and the most common comment I recieve is "me and my doctors are confused as my bloods are normal" and it does start me wondering why still in 2024 is the body with a uterus such a mystery and why we are still gaslight,bullied and ignored

. I once sat waiting in a waiting room waiting for an appt to talk about my heavy period and painful period. All to be told by the doctor that all I could do was go on the coil. And he is not wrong, thats he all he can give me, a procedure that is done with no pain relief. And just before in the waiting room I had been reading a poster of all the medictaion they can pescribe for ericle dysfunction, with little side effects were added (something those of us on birth control could only dream of). And I remeber leaving angry not at the doctor as he did take me seriously, ordered some scans and bloods. But they will probably show up normal.

And I suppose I do wonder why more research into uterus health problems isnt being done. 2 in 3 women struggle with gynecological health problems, but only 2.5% of research is focused on that, its just not seen as a priority. I learnt from a rhemtologist that womens bodies are hard to diagnose and work out what is going on as clinical studies are done on men?

This is why I wrote this, its the feeling of knowing there is something wrong with your body, but not being able to find what it is so you feel like you are going crazy:



I wonder if everyone is so preoccupied in death 

Not a single day goes by when I don’t think about dying 

Somedays it fills me with terror, I want to claw my way to life 

Other days it  feels like a sweet release to feeling this I’ll 

No one has every directly told me “you are going to die” 

But yet somehow I have been forced to face my own mortality more times than I could count on my hand 


Just the very possibility passes through me every day 

Even if it’s a 1% possibility, it still plays on my mind 

It could be 10,30,50,60 and I think it would still feel the same sort of panic 

And I want to scream to the universe “not now I have so much I want to do” 

But the universe isn’t snatching me away at this moment 

So there is no need for the bargaining 

But I feel like I’m dying 

Weather that’s just all in my mind 

A very product of my illness 

Or the constant stress of everything 

I feel like I am dying, so I stress about dying everyday 


In a way that makes sense when you put it like that 

Seems a little less loony 

Not that it is loony to think that way, in fact a lot of the time it’s very logically  to think or your own mortality 

But I can understand to the healthy body and mind this all seems insane 

I can imagine you phoning the psychatiry vans right now 

But none of this is about wanting to die 

In fact it’s about wanting to live, to live so badly I would swallow any medication they give me, no matter the side effects, or the cancer risk 

It’s wanting to live so badly, that it’s forcing yourself to live while you feel like your dying

 

It’s not the actual death I’m afraid of, it’s the way of dying and possibility’s of ways I could die that disturb my mind at night keeping me up at 3am 

It’s the not being prepared, not knowing what to prepare for life or death or in between 

It’s the leaving the earth to soon 

You know when people say “it’s such a shame, they died to young” and you think to yourself it’s actually just a crime for anyone to die what has youth got anything to do with it 

Well my mind has been firmly changed 

There right it’s to young, to have your future and all these experiences ripped from you

 

But yet I’m not dying 

Call me a hypochondriac 

Or a women who knows there is something wrong with there body 

What ever you please, maybe it’s both even I don’t know

Call me crazy, irrational, I don’t care 

Sometimes I even think that too 

To be so preoccupied with the thoughts of what ifs make your mind sick u say 

Well maybe your right 

But the sickness has already crawled in now, and made it’s home 

I fear it’s to late 



Let me know your thoughts and experinces below

Amy x

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